Why Having Sex With Your Wife is More Important than Ever

Having sex with your wife is important
Being in a relationship is an extremely challenging experience, yet also one of the most fulfilling.

There are times when we find ourselves on top of the world, because our relationship with our wife is strong and close and supportive right then. And there are other times when we experience the reverse – we’re in a big dip, and our relationship with our partner is weak and disconnected and seemingly unsupportive.

When that happens, many other things in our life also lose their flavor – our work may suffer, our play may not be so playful, and our family and home life seem to be a burden rather than a blessing. So it’s important for the overall quality of our life that we re-connect with our partner, even (especially) when we’re not getting along.

There are few activities for couples that can bring you closer than having sex together. And when you’re not getting along is the time you most need it.

Having sex with our wife (or husband) might be the furthest thing from our minds when our relationship is on the fritz, but if we can put our mental and verbal differences aside for a little while and try to come together physically (!), it could be the catalyst we need in order to move forward in our marriage.

No, having sex isn’t the only solution, nor is it permanent (unless you can keep up the tempo 24/7!). But it can give us a re-centering and re-grounding in our relationship that few things can.

And it’s not only good for our marriage, it’s good for us – mentally, physically, and emotionally – and having sex with the one we love is a very healthy practice. It also happens to be an extremely affordable activity for those of us on a strict budget, of course if you happen to have a little bit of extra money, you could add some excitement with some sex products you could get at חנות מוצרי סקס or any other sex shop.

So for a quick turnabout in your marriage, don’t moan about your relationship, or spend more money on pop-psychology books.

Just do it. It’s legal, it’s clean, it’s fun, and it’s healthy.

Caveat: Please be responsible. If you don’t want any (more) kids, use a condom or the Natural Family Planning method to play it safe.

Image: tibchris at Flickr

Derek Markham

Things I dig include: simple living, natural fatherhood, attachment parenting, natural building, unassisted childbirth (homebirth), bicycles, permaculture, organic and biodynamic gardening, vegan peanut butter cookies with chocolate chips, bouldering, and the blues. Find me elsewhere at @NaturalPapa, @DerekMarkham, Google+, or RebelMouse.

5 thoughts on “Why Having Sex With Your Wife is More Important than Ever

  • December 13, 2010 at 2:17 pm
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    I’m living proof of what can happen when you have sex. You could have twins. So be safe and have fun.

    Nice effort on your part to promote sexual relations.

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  • December 13, 2010 at 2:18 pm
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    Hey, saw this post go by on Twitter, awesome! It’s hard to keep love alive when you’re dealing with financial problems, the kids, financial problems again… sex can be the answer! Great post.

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  • December 13, 2010 at 9:50 pm
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    This is a great and vital post for all couples, especially those with young children. I will refer to it tomorrow on my website! Thanks Derek!

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  • December 15, 2010 at 7:57 am
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    There is a lot of truth in this post. But I’d love to know what your wife thinks about it!

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    • December 15, 2010 at 10:13 am
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      Me too…

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