Marriage can be a beautiful thing. But in order for a marriage to be successful, both partners need to fight at all times. Even two people who are madly in love could still have all kinds of serious marital problems, which could subsequently lead to divorce. Sadly, almost 50% of all marriages in the U.S. will end in divorce or separation.
Every relationship and marriage is completely different. There are so many major stressors that happen all the time across the United States. Here are some of the most common issues that can ruin a marriage:
Trust is the most important factor of a healthy relationship. If trust is not there, it’s virtually impossible for a marriage to survive. A white lie here or there or even a minor breach of trust can be worked through, however. But infidelity — for most people — is a trust dealbreaker. There is no coming back from that. There are people who can work through these issues and have healthy and happy marriages later on, but they are few and far between.
Drug and alcohol abuse
Drug and alcohol problems are quite common in relationships, as well. If one spouse is drinking every night, drinking too much, or drinking and driving — there is a pretty good chance that the relationship is on its last legs.
A DUI conviction will likely be raised to a felony if it is the driver’s fourth DUI offense or the driver has had a prior felony DUI offense within 10 years of the new charge.
Drug addiction is a much more serious issue that needs to be addressed and dealt with in a professional and respectful manner.
Drug testing is one of the only ways that families, friends, or even employers can be sure that the addict is actually clean. It is often the only way many families are willing to provide continued financial support given most families have struggled with these issues for a long time.
Financial problems cause arguments every single day in this country. When two people marry, it’s common for their bank accounts to bond. That can work fine, but it can also lead to all kinds of issues. One partner might make much more than the other and want more control over the finances. One partner might have more aggressive spending habits. There are so many situations that could lead to arguments and potentially even divorce. As long as you’re careful and openly communicate about every financial decision being made, you will be able to avoid these issues.
Different parenting styles
Children can turn a struggling marriage into something truly special. But after a while, two people who have completely different parenting styles can butt heads and lead to all sorts of issues.
One parent might be very strict while the other is much more relaxed. This can obviously cause issues — especially once the child picks up on the “good cop/bad cop” routine.
Another common reason couples divorce is feelings of regret and resentfulness. If you gave up your dreams to settle down, even if you thought that’s what you wanted, you could end up resenting your partner. Hopefully you can find a partner that will encourage you to go for your dreams no matter what. But that’s not always the case or even a realistic option.
These are common problems that can impact any relationship. But they don’t have to be automatic causes for divorce. As long as you’re appreciating your partner, communicating well, and continue working on strengthening your marriage, you should be able to overcome all kinds of problems down the line. Good luck!