Changing Tradition: How to Include Dads-to-Be in Co-Ed Baby Showers

Some may find it hard to believe, but dads-to-be look forward to the birth of their child just as much (if not more) as the mother-to-be. Traditionally speaking, baby showers are for the expecting mother and her close female friends and family. No men allowed. Not sure who exactly made that rule up but dads are coming together wanting in on the baby shower action.

For the most part, men typically wouldn’t complain about not getting invited to baby showers but they sure have the right to complain if they wanted to come. It takes two people to do that tango that creates a baby, so why shouldn’t he come and take part in the festivities?

Times Are Changing: Involvement

If it’s the dad’s first child, he’s more than likely excited and wanting to be part of every aspect of the pregnancy. From the doctor appointments on up to the baby shower. He wants to be involved, and when a dad wants to be involved like that, don’t take that away from him because there are far too many dads that don’t want to have anything to do with their kids.

According to the National Fatherhood Initiative, there is a father absence crisis in America. The U.S. Census Bureau states that 1 in 4 kids live without a father in their home, and it has to stop. Something as simple as letting the dad be involved in the baby shower can make a world of difference. Luckily, times are changing and people are becoming more open to the idea of co-ed baby showers.

Baby Shower Planning With Dad in Mind

Planning a baby shower for men and women can be a little difficult because you’re no longer just catering to women. You now have to get creative with the traditional elements of baby shower planning and make it fun and functional for both men and women. So pull out your pen and paper and take notes on how to plan for a co-ed baby shower.

Invite Friends of the Dad-to-Be

It’s one thing to invite the dad-to-be to the shower, but he’s not going to want to be the ONLY guy there. Do him a solid and invite his friends too… the more the merrier. You have to understand, men like to share their important life-changing events with their friends just as much as women do.

Don’t Go Overboard With Pink or Blue

Whether you’re having a girl or boy, people tend to think that you have to make the baby shower decor look like a pink or blue crayon exploded during the shower. Instead of going overboard on pink or blue, consider sticking to a theme versus a color.

For boys, they can have a farm theme. The decor can be farm animals and balloons, you can have a farm-themed diaper cake with matching plates and cups. The same goes for little girls. If it’s a little girl, you can have a fairy themed shower. That theme would actually open up your color scheme to more colors than just pink.

Open All the Gifts Together

When it comes to baby showers, there are always lots of gifts that the mother usually opens by herself… this time, let the dad take some of that load off. Dads know how to open gifts and would enjoy seeing the gifts for his little one.

Skip the Finger Foods & Go for Heartier Foods

Now that this is a co-ed shower, cupcakes and tiny sandwiches will no longer do. With men in attendance, the menu will need a makeover. Consider having a barbecue or different types of foods that will appeal to both men and women. Having a cookout with hamburgers and hot dogs are a great route to take… everybody likes them!

After the Shower…

After the festivities of the shower has calmed down, you’re in the home stretch of bringing the baby home. As a new dad, preparing for a new baby is crucial. From sleepless nights to baby proofing, you just have to take things one day at a time and learn as you go.

Baby showers tend to be looked at as the “last hoorah” for parents, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be the “last” hoorah… after you have your baby, you’ll just have a different type of “hoorah!” So just take it all in and enjoy the ride!

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