Parenthood is not just related to mothers, it extends to the fathers as well. When my wife was pregnant, I did a ridiculous amount of reading. There were natural parenting books, baby scheduling books and similar other “your baby, yourself” books. I thought I knew everything about it, but when we had our baby, I found how wrong I was all along. So if you are going to be a parent soon, know that it’s not going to be the same as it’s advertised in your social circles. There will be many things you hate and many things you like. So here are some true things about parenthood no one tells you about.
- You are definitely going to suck at parenting, but at the same time, you are going to be awesome at it as well. Babies change with every hour that passes. They have different moods that require you to be a different parent every morning.
- Good days will come as frequently as the bad days and more interestingly, these days will also come with good minutes and bad minutes. You will be making tones of good choices and bad choices. You will be doing a lot of things, wrong, but will be able to work it all out in the end. There is no need to go hard on you. It’s your first time, so be gentle with yourself.
- Your wife will be going through a tough time too. Her body will be healing and so will be her mood. Remember that postpartum bodies are squashy, dimpled, wobbly and stretched. Make sure that your wife eats good healthy food and walks around when she is well enough. Tell her that she is beautiful and let her meet people who think the same too.
- It’s your baby and it is not like the other babies. You and your wife are the only experts on that baby because you have made it. Your baby may never behave like the books said it would. Nor he may behave like the people think he should. But that’s totally normal, great and perfectly OK. The best thing to do in this scenario is to put down your literature and have some experiences with your baby and know him well. The discovery of all these things will help you more than any books you can pull off any shelve.
- Not all good things are comfortable and pleasant. A baby is never going to be easy and painless, but it is going to be a great experience. Sadly, we live in a society where people equate ease with value. Simply put, the easier it is, the better it is. The reality check is that sometimes things are hard and painful, but they are not bad and really, really good. Just be patient and let everything happen. It will be over soon and you will be victorious.
When we go through all these experiences we realize the sacrifices out parents have given for us when we were young and helpless. This is why when we grow old, we have to do everything we can to make them happy and see to it that their needs are being met. There are many websites out there that can help you with that and among them is Care Pilot. They offer in-home care, aged care, post hospital care and even disability support. Try these services out and give your parents, the best you can offer.