Afraid of Our Own Shadow

Afraid of Our Own Shadow

Boys don’t cry. Don’t be a wimp. Stop being selfish. Be a man about it. You’re not good enough. Sound familiar? “We spend our life until we’re twenty deciding what parts of ourself to put into the bag, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to get them out again.” – Robert Bly… Read more

How to be a Good Man During Confrontations

How to be a Good Man During Confrontations

It sometimes feels as if we’re caught between the old model of aggressive and combative manhood, where everything is a battle, and the new, kinder, gentler man, for whom everything is a compromise. And we don’t have a whole lot of examples of men walking the middle path in our modern culture. It’s either Die Hard or… Read more

Manly Skill: Become an Authentic Man

Manly Skill: Become an Authentic Man

In my reading, both on the web and in print, I’ve come across two basic types of men: those who believe that their development as a person and as a man is finished (and anyone who thinks differently is some kind of girly-man or should ‘get over it’), and those who are willing to go… Read more

Addendum to Retrosexual Code: Reality Check

Addendum to Retrosexual Code: Reality Check

I recently stumbled across a web page from “Radical Conservative” (an anonymous blogger who apparently lives to bash people who don’t believe as he (she?) does) called Retrosexual Code. The Code is full of so many tired stereotypes that I can’t help but feel sorry for the person who wrote it. I’m going to help… Read more

Mainstream Media to Men: You’re Dead Inside

Mainstream Media to Men: You’re Dead Inside

One of my favorite t-shirt designs has a picture of a TV with a hypnotized-looking person staring at it, and the caption, “Why do you think they call it programming?” So it probably goes without saying that I don’t watch (or even own a) TV. I just can’t bring myself to expose my family to… Read more