Every instance that was mentioned by you two regarding the “dangers” of bed sharing (or co-sleeping) involve situations where the parents obviously didnt adhere to the reasons NOT to bed share, as stated by doctors and bed sharing advocates.

Examples: http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/sleep-problems/sleep-safety/safe-co-sleeping-habits
http://www.attachmentparenting.org/pdfs/APIRG_safe_sleep_%20position_paper.pdf
http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/familybed.html#safety
http://www.llli.org/faq/cosleep.html

Every single bed sharing advocate site has a list of reasons not to bed share: do not co-sleep on a couch/sofa, armchair, or waterbed, as there are places that the baby can slip down into, get stuck, and suffocate; do not co-sleep if you’ve been drinking or taking drugs because your mind is altered, your senses are muted, you are harder to arouse out of a deep sleep and you could roll over without knowing it and smother your baby – same goes for being overtired; do not allow anyone that is NOT the parent (in the case of Isaiah) bed share or co sleep with your child – not even older child siblings or other “moms”…

All you’ve proven with your examples is that the people that suffered these tragedies did not follow the basic guidelines to co-sleeping safety (they were drunk, or on a couch, or they were the grandparents), and paid the ultimate price for their lack of common sense.

Hell, I dont even let my own husband sleep with our 2 month old son in the mornings after I leave for work – I make him place the baby in a bassinet. At night, my son sleeps on the outside of me, placing me in between him and my husband – since I know my loving, wonderful father of a husband has a tendency to move a lot in his sleep without realizing it…but rather than take the risk and allow my son to sleep between us, I create a human barrier so that nothing happens to him. BTW I am also a breastfeeding mother, so it’s quite convenient not to have to even so much as sit up when the baby wakes to feed – not to mention we all sleep much better since the baby has to fuss less to get my attention, and my son and I can both remain fairly drowsy while nursing, allowing us to fall back asleep more easily after we’re done.

Point being – my husband may be a fabulous father, but when it comes to his sleep habits, I dont trust him any farther than I can throw him. Same goes for my mom. My mother suggested the possibility of bed sharing when she takes my son this weekend for his 1st overnight. I told her HELL.TO.THE.NO. He can sleep in his Pack n Play in her room, but that’s as close as he’s gonna get. That’s me using common sense not to allow my child to be placed in a potentially unsafe situation by bed sharing with someone that is not an appropriate candidate for it.

Long story short – your arguments are bogus and refutable; opinions built based on fear and lack of education. There is nothing wrong with bed sharing if done properly, with common sense, following the recommended safety guidelines.

your pets don’t count. fam up and come talk to us.

even before my son was born i had already determined i would sleep with him during his infancy. in time he will sleep in his crib, but while he is my precious, tender little man, i sleep with him as much as i can; even on work nights when i know he will wake me up!

it’s funny that you never hear from PARENTS who co-sleep/slept with their children who say “DON’T DO IT!!!” it’s always you people who have no desire to spread your own genetics.

like your DNA, keep your opinions to yourself. that goes for ALL of you non-breeders. fear mongers. fools.

For those who want a compromise between bed-sharing and the baby in a crib in their own room, there are options. You can buy a “co-sleeper” bassinet, put a crib mattress on the floor of your room, or drop the side of a crib and attach it to your bed like a sidecar.

Most parents end up co-sleeping occasionally, whether accidentally or out of desperation. But falling asleep on the sofa is very dangerous, and if you’re going to do it eventually, you may as well do it thoughtfully!